Column: How the “3-R Program” will choke your growth
Commentary by Jack Klemeyer
There are a multitude of things that can inhibit your personal and professional growth. There are lots of activities and systems you might employ that will damage your business rather than grow it. But the 3-R Program that we all run from time to time, is the worst.
The 3-R Program is a little ditty that every human exercises in their emotions from time to time. Some of us run the program almost constantly thinking we are winning the race of growth when, in truth, just the opposite is happening. In fact, the end result of building a habit of the 3-R Program is serious damage to you and your business.
The 3-R Program is stealthy. The hard truth is when you are employing the 3-R Program, which is an emotional program, you feel good. You feel like you are justified and you feel like you are winning. This makes for positive reinforcement and, because of that, repeated application.
The 3-R Program is usually triggered when you feel you’ve been wronged in some way.
The first R in the Program is Resentment. That is any negative emotion toward any person, place, thing, condition, circumstance, thought or idea.
That is followed by second R, which is Resistance. It is defined by the withholding or withdrawal of any of your resources, potential, gifts, talents or positive expressions.
The third R is Revenge. We all know that is the process or desire of making another person feel your pain in some way, in any way.
This emotional energy follows the laws of the universe. Energy cannot be created or destroyed if it is snuffed out in one place. It simply shows up in another. Energy gets expressed and in the application of the 3-R Program, it shows up either in our physical body or in our results.
As the author and speaker, Les Brown, says, “Most people aren’t overweight because of what they’re eating. They’re overweight because of what’s eating them.”
When your 3-R Program is running it is a clear indication that you have assigned the power and the responsibility of the process, and the repercussions of your thoughts, your actions and thereby, your results, to someone other than yourself.
When the 3-R Program is running in you it is as if your creed is “who is the matter with me today.” As my friend and mentor says, “If other people can make you sad, glad or mad… you’ve been had.”